Modern Loving – True Love and Cheesy Romantic Quotes
Along with technology and numbers, our culture has also seen great progress since the industrial revolution. The way we see things, the way we relate to those around us have changed considerably. So, what was once seen as par for the course can now be considered cheesy and exaggerated. That’s why, today, we’re going to talk about the ups and downs of romance using some of the most cheesy romantic quotes we could find.
“Nobody completes anybody. That’s not a real thing. If you’re lucky enough to find someone you can hallway tolerate, you sink your nails in and don’t let go no matter what.” – Bojack Horseman
Nowadays, love isn’t so much about meeting a soulmate as much as about finding someone to help you get through life. Of course, there are still plenty of perfectly happy-seeming couples out there, but they’re getting rarer and rarer. It’s uncertain whether it’s a reverse effect of overpopulation, an increasingly cynical mindset owed to societal standards, or something else.
What matters is that love is rarely seen as that which it used to be. While that is good in and of itself, people these days seem to be taking it much harder than they used to. But it’s not their fault, at least not entirely.
You see, pop culture has this way of promoting values which sell. But that doesn’t make them good values to live by. Take Ted Mosby for example. On paper, he’s the ideal guy… minus his pretentiousness. But even that can be argued to be attractive. After all, a guy knowing what he wants and pursuing it as doggedly as him speaks of a rare brand of determination.
But it also speaks of immaturity, and many of his actions would be downright condemnable if anyone were to perform them in the real world. This is just one example of how pop culture has diluted our idea of romance.
Manic Pixie Dream Girls and Bad Stereotypes
The Manic Pixie Dream Girl is one of the most prominent stereotypes in pop culture. And it’s so damaging not only because it instills false expectations on those who watch those particular forms of entertainment, but because it promotes something originally conceived of a warning.
The MPDG was described by film critic Nathan Rabin as “that bubbly, shallow cinematic creature that exists solely in the fevered imaginations of sensitive writer-directors to teach broodingly soulful young men to embrace life and its infinite mysteries and adventures.” Some examples would be Kirsten Dunst in Elizabethtown, Natalie Portman in Garden State, and Zooey Deschanel in pretty much everything she’s in.
And it’s an issue because it’s not presented as fictional. Many romantic comedy directors treat ideas such as running through airport security after your loved one, playing them romantic music under the balcony, or simply the fact that there is such a thing as “the one” as real, or even encouraged.
However, attempting to run past airport checkpoints, blaring the boombox in the rain, or lying to a comatose patient’s family and pretending you’re engaged usually ends in regret and a restraining order rather than a happily-ever-after. If anything, if you listen to what pop culture would have you do, you’re getting closer to the meaning of “stalker” than ever before in history.
You Want To Know What Love Is?
But if what movies and TV shows portray as love is bad, what is actual love? Well, it’s different from person to person. And real love is rare. True, Shakespearean love, is also a mental health issue. Pedro Calderón de la Barca even said that “When love is not madness it is not love.”
Still, I haven’t really answered what love is. The feeling is among our most primal, and is completely impossible to control. Once love decides to rear its head, you can choose whether you want to act on it. But you are still in its clutches. Similarly, once love decides to make its leave, you are left with confusion and unacceptance.
But love is also beautiful. Love is caring about someone so deeply that you don’t care about their flaws. Love is not saying “I told you so,” no matter how right you were. It is a willingness to put aside your needs and focus on your partner’s. When love is involved, “Soul meets soul on lovers’ lips.”
Love is the reason behind poetry, and love is the reason we have kids. We are willing to die for love but love makes us want to live. Love… has to be experienced to be understood.