6 Not So Easy Steps to Get Over Your Ex
A breakup is almost always predictable and there are so many breakup quotes proving it right. The more often the fights, the lower the level of understanding towards each other, the constant suspicions of cheating, giving less and less attention to one another. There is a famous beautiful quote about a bad relationship saying that: “A relationship without trust is like a car without gas, you can stay in all you want but it won’t go anywhere.” We’ve all been through that and unless the couple realises that they want to stick together because they truly love each other and they believe they can work it out, it’s just a matter of time for the others to make the inevitable happen.
Should we call the tow car company or a relationship counsellor?
Usually, out of fear or embarrassment both avoid the confrontation of breaking up and just wait and prolong the painful relationship until the so-called “right” moment comes. This moment is usually “appropriate” when one of them is doing something completely wrong and the other bursts into flames. Of course, even if you both expected for this to happen sooner or later, any breakup is painful and hard to get over no matter how foreseeable it was or not.
There is no right or wrong way to get through a tough breakup. Everyone gets through it according to their feelings and soul, to their strength and character. Many decide to gather everything in and just stay home, watch movies, and eat ice cream. Others feel like whining to everybody and to make all conversations about themselves and their drama.
Either you or me…
In what concerns me, I am reading inspirational quotes that give me the empowerment and wisdom of others to redirect my thoughts towards a more positive vision and perspective over life. Here are my favourite step-quotes that help me get over a breakup easier. Check them out and in case you find a great powerful quote that kept you driven not to fall in depression, share it with us!
1. “Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”, by D. Love
D. Love’s quote is wisely pointing out how crucial it is to realise that what’s over it’s better to be left unwind. After you just had a breakup, your thoughts and mind are probably not going to be clear, your heart might be impulsive and you might think that you have nothing to lose, that you just want your partner back. How do you get through that hard moments?
– calm yourself breathing in, breathing out
– erase the other’s phone number
– put your phone slowly on the table
– accept that a relationship that has been through a hard breakup will never be the same, you can never be the same
Either you or the other will keep reminding each other of the past mistakes. Exactly like a leaking broken glass would remind you making you constantly wet about the fact that you dropped it on the kitchen floor. So trust me, it’s better to swipe the shards of glass carefully not to leave anything behind, that you might step into later.
2. “One day they’ll realise they lost a diamond while playing with worthless stones.”, by Turcois Ominek
As you allow yourself some time to grief, you might need to read some motivational quotes that will make you stronger. Realising that you were underestimated and that you deserve better is a great step towards recovery. Only the thought that your ex will stumble upon a person that it is not even remotely as awesome and understanding as you will make you feel special. It might not be a very comforting thought at the moment but you have to impose to yourself the following:
– your ex-partner couldn’t see how precious you are
– you are worthy of true love and acceptance
– you are entitled to be in a healthy relationship
– whenever you are staring at the ceiling at 3 am in the morning thinking about what went wrong, remember this great inspirational quote by Robin Sharma: “Stop being a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your future.”
3. “Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and start over”, by Guy Finley
Even watching the universe might actually help you meditate a little.
After the gloomy days of melancholy and sadness, after the numerous questions without an answer, and the moments when your thoughts would keep on running at the beautiful or bad moments from your past relationship, it’s time to slowly accept what happened and try to move on. Your companion is no longer in your life and there’s no good reason in having him or her occupy your attention when there are so many things to do and enjoy. It is easy to just say that you are going to let go and move on, I know, but maybe this will help you out:
– collect all his/her things in a box and donate them
– try to avoid all the places you’ve been together so you don’t associate them with memories that might escalate into another crisis that will take you back to step one
– even though “sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go, but rather, learning to start over.”, as Nicole Sobon said, try to overcome the fear of new because you will be surprised by how good a fresh new start feels like
You feel like you’ve got this? You think it is manageable? Then go ahead at the fourth step!
4. “Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again”, Al Green
I’m not sure if you ever listened to Al Green, but his song “How can you mend a broken heart?” is just the perfect smooth bandage to your soul and ears. Not only he wonders how come no one warned him about the sorrow, but he wishes to get over and enjoy life again. The slow soundtrack and his weeping voice are blending perfectly into a great atmosphere. But what can you actually do to get over it? Well, this is what works out for me:
Oh, just hear this guy sing and you’ll forget about anyone.
– listen to all discography of Al Green
– download it and listen to it while jogging in the park or any other sporty activity. Making some sports can release endorphins or can make you tired so you fall asleep faster
– meet with some friends and try to open up because as Gwyneth Paltrow believes: “The best way to mend a broken heart is time and friends.” Have your lunch with your besties at least a couple of times a week
It’s beneficial for your insecurities to feel like you have people to count on and trust fully. But don’t over do it. They also have their problems and also, no one will really help you get over it but yourself alone.
5. “I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not to be defined by another person.” Oscar Wilde
It might sound scary being all alone with your thoughts, but you need to get used to the fact that you are going to spend some time alone from now on. And hey! It’s not so bad after all. You get to do whatever you want when you want it without anyone’s opinion or disapproval. Doesn’t that sound amazing? I think it really does! I mean, after a very hard breakup I actually had time to focus all my energy towards my passion, travelling! And, man I’ve seen some great places! But maybe in your case, it’s different:
– Watch all the cheesy movies your ex thought were too bad to waste time on
Cowboys and the Wild Wild West seems distracting.
– enrol in that embarrassing street dance classes that you’ve always wanted
– order food every night from all the different places that you wanted and your ex disliked
– darn it! Just enjoy everything you wanted and you might discover even more about yourself!
6. “Every single day, do something that makes your heart sing”, Marcia Wieder
Congratulations! Once you identify yourself with this amazing inspirational quote of Wieder then you are as closest as ever to get over your ex. The previous step should have already gotten you into spending time and discovering yourself. So why not make this as a habit on a long term? It will make your life exciting and happy!
– be courageous and spontaneous because now you can without asking anyone!
– Jack Kerouac thinks that you should “Be in love with your life. Every minute of it.” As impossible as that seems, it’s actually pretty easy to keep a smile on your face every day
– take a trip somewhere new with your friends
Come on! I bet you have so many plans! Just take a step back after reading this article, make yourself a cup of tea and meditate a bit about what you’ve lost and what’s waiting for you. I think the balance goes towards the bright future. As C.S. Lewis said: “There are far, far, better things ahead than any we leave behind.” In case your heart is still hurting, you can find inspiration and courage in many quotes of famous people that felt the same way.